To my Fellow Bloggers: I need your help deciding.
ID's "friend" who told me to seek out my "own kind" use to be a "friend" of mine.
Mutual of course.
When she was a "friend" I was feeling nice and I gave her tickets to a lot of children shows that my company hosts. They were free and they were nice seats.
Should I :
A.) Let her keep them, because I've made up with ID and I now know the whole story, and I realize that even though it was her making a big deal out of an over dramatic drunk ID, and not hearing my side, she's still ID's friend and I should respect that.
Or.
B.) Reprint the tickets (making her's invalid) and send her a text message saying, "Hey, you should throw those tickets out, they are invalid now, you should probably get some tickets from your own kind." And then give the tickets to MM and MW.
Tell me what should I do?
Mutual of course.
When she was a "friend" I was feeling nice and I gave her tickets to a lot of children shows that my company hosts. They were free and they were nice seats.
Should I :
A.) Let her keep them, because I've made up with ID and I now know the whole story, and I realize that even though it was her making a big deal out of an over dramatic drunk ID, and not hearing my side, she's still ID's friend and I should respect that.
Or.
B.) Reprint the tickets (making her's invalid) and send her a text message saying, "Hey, you should throw those tickets out, they are invalid now, you should probably get some tickets from your own kind." And then give the tickets to MM and MW.
Tell me what should I do?
posted by Sipwine at 3:01 PM
12 Comments:
Let her keep them, just don't give her anymore...ever. That way when she goes to the show she has to think about the fact that you gave her the tickets and she treated you like dirt. That way you don't have to cause a bunch of drama with her and there's still a pretty good chance she'll feel bad for screwing up. And you wont have to worry about giving her anything else in the future. I wouldn't talk to her about them either. Just let it simmer. That's just what I'd do though.
You are wise, and definitely more mature than I am.
I would also like to follow that up with a couple of facts:
1.) This woman is Jerry-Springerish and would probably think, "Haha, sucker, QSW gave me these seats and now she can't talk to me anymore and I still have them! What a loser!"
2.) I have a feeling I have not seen the last of drama from her.
Still.. your advice... really good advice.
I agree, you just have to let them go...and give her no more tickets, and no more of your time.
Yup, a gift is a gift, methinks. It makes you better for having given them. Along those lines, if she thinks you're a sucker that just makes her a worse person. Give different tickets to MM and MW :)
That being said, I understand the feeling of wanting to hurt someone who has hurt you. And almost without exception, I've found that it's a mistake to follow through.
"Your kind" is better than all that. Let her (and ID!) live with their pettiness - you are so much better than all that, and many of the guys that you've written about. You should demand more for yourself than Springeresque friends and emotionally manipulative, alcoholic roommates!
yeah, let her keep the tickets! especially when you know she's a drama-queen, why help her evoke childish bitching drama!! no need to let her squeeze another drama out of you but as rachel said never give her free tickets again. she might not understand why you're not giving her anymore tickets but also she then probably won't understand why you invalidated her tickets in first place. there's no need to play with your own peace of mind!
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Let the bitch have the tickets! Invalidating the tickets only would put you at her level and you are much better than that.
Although she is ID's friend, that doesn't give her any right to insult you in any which way or form. Next time you have great tickets to anything make sure you give them to someone right in front of her if possible.... Let her writhe in her own pettiness.
If it's a bunch of shows... maybe you can let her keep the first upcoming one and reprint the rest... Give her a taste and take it AWAY!!! Yeah ok I'm not that mature.
I know you would LOVE to send her that text like in choice B...but yeah, A is better...UNLESS you reprint the tickets to invalidate hers but don't even tell her! hehehe Is that bad, too??? I'm probably not the best help.
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I totally think reprinting the tickets without telling her would be the best revenge, but the more mature and adult choice is A.
Just let her know next time tickets come around that they don't seat her kind!
I wonder who your own kind is.
I really really want you to invalidate her tickets, but that'd bring you down to the Jerry Springer level too. Let it go, don't give her the satisfaction, and other woman-scorned cliches like that. It's the mature thing to do.
God, being mature sucks.
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