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The real post is below... this is just a question.
Should I be scared (as in, slamming the button on my biological clock) that Mr. Lust asked me to come help him look for a house this weekend?
He's looking for a house nearer to his job, friends, and me. He has about 30,000 to put down as a down payment, which is a lot in this area, considering you can actually buy a nice house (4 bedroom and two bath) for about 41,000. He's looking at 6 bedroom houses along the river.
I'm really not scared.
He asked in such a flattering way and there was no feeling of "I'm asking you to help me because I'm so committed to you I want you to move in with me."
He just wants my opinion because he respects me and values it.
Since my friends have all fallen off the deep end of craziness, I feel like I should ask this question to the objective people of the blogging world.
Should I be scared (as in, slamming the button on my biological clock) that Mr. Lust asked me to come help him look for a house this weekend?
He's looking for a house nearer to his job, friends, and me. He has about 30,000 to put down as a down payment, which is a lot in this area, considering you can actually buy a nice house (4 bedroom and two bath) for about 41,000. He's looking at 6 bedroom houses along the river.
I'm really not scared.
He asked in such a flattering way and there was no feeling of "I'm asking you to help me because I'm so committed to you I want you to move in with me."
He just wants my opinion because he respects me and values it.
Since my friends have all fallen off the deep end of craziness, I feel like I should ask this question to the objective people of the blogging world.
posted by Sipwine at 5:01 AM
8 Comments:
House hunting is always a fun past time, even when you aren't hunting for your own house. In all reality its probably a good idea for you to go along, even though you aren't moving in or anything, you will probably be spending some considerable time there. Might as well put in your two cents on the things you do or dont like. What can it hurt? Who doesn't want to pick out their dream house and have someone else pay for it LOL. Don't be scared, just make it fun.
Careful girl...things seem to be moving a little quickly!
When I was looking for my current place, I took a girlfriend house hunting. I don't think its a big deal, could be fun, and could also help you guys learn more about each other.
Now, depending on questions he asked about it (and I guess other things associated with it) I would be cautious in answers. Ex answer: "It doesn't matter what I think, it's for you and not me." This early in the game he probably shouldn't be basing 'big decisions' on you, even if things are splendidly peachy.
I'm crazy too, but my opinion is: no big deal! He values your opinion, that's all.
Rachel: Good point! I knew I wasn't freaking out for a reason! :) I think I'll bring lunch and make it fun. Thanks!
WB: They are moving a little quickly. I'm not concerned by it. Which is odd. Which is why I posed this question to the objective world. And I'm glad I'm not the only one who thinks I should be a little careful. :)
Scotty: Ah! A guy's perspective. This is what I really needed! Thank you, I can relax a little now. :)
Lenfer: As long as I'm not the only crazy one, thats all that matters. ;)
I'd say the "lunch" idea is a good one, hell try to sneak in a quickie in one of the houses you look at!! Hell have a good time!! You will know /learn more about him and his intentions by going and keeping your ears open!!
Ok I would say have fun, and enjoy the day, it's a great way to get to know him, and for him to know more about your tastes. But...
...don't be naive he is asking you along because he values your opinion and wants to be able to imagine you in those houses...WITH HIM. Yes, that might freak you out...but lets be honest if he sees one he likes and makes an offer you are going to be imagining yourself in it too.
Tough call. I would personally freak out a bit (or perhaps get excited?) but I think it all comes down to your gut. If you aren't getting the commitmenty-is-he-asking-me-to-move-in vibe, then you are probably A-OK. He just wants your opinion, plus it sounds like a fun time.
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